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When it comes to social skills, I am kind of stuck in between an introvert and an extrovert. I would want to be a social person but I cannot be the kind who initiates a conversation or keeps it going for the most part – I would require the other person also to be equally talkative or sometimes, more talkative than me. This may be the reason for me not being able to keep in touch with my school and college friends. In addition to moving through the gears of time and life, the distance between me and my friends robbed me of my comfort zone and I let it slip away. I didn’t feel much of the pang because I got married to my childhood sweetheart – I had him, forever with me, to reminisce. So life just went on.

All this changed, oh so suddenly, when I stumbled upon a couple of my school friends Facebook profiles and messages. I wanted to talk to them but was skeptical if they would feel the same, after all these contact-less years. Nevertheless, I started talking to a couple of them and we started a Whatsapp group – all the while wondering if others will feel comfortable connecting after such a long time. How would everyone react? Will they be as involved and interested?

As for my tingling doubts about people’s reactions, boy, was I wrong! Everyone connected and pulled in more people seamlessly. We could get in touch with almost everyone in 2 days and our group flooded with messages. So much so that all of us were stuck to our mobiles through day and night. The emotions, excitement and joy was almost tangible even though we were only texting. For once, I believed technology and social media has done something useful, in creating as much joy and happiness in a bunch of people, especially during this hopeless time of a pandemic.

In less than a week, we planned and met virtually over a conference call with our families. We had just planned a trial run to see if we can find a suitable time for a real one. But again, almost everyone made it and the reactions on our faces said everything. Amidst talking over each other, talking at the same time, catching up on each other’s lives, managing to get our kids to talk and then be quiet, we enjoyed everything. We didn’t even know how the hour went by. There was so much to talk and so little time.

All of us remembered and reminisced about the joyful memories, our teachers, our daily school lives that we led as naive kids. To me, it felt like something that was frozen in time and memory had been thawed by friendship and brought back to life. Such was the feeling – it was truly inexplicable. It’s true what they say, meeting school friends after a long time and feeling nothing really has changed in the friendship is the best feeling. And especially childhood friends, there’s something about them that you cannot replace.

As the hour went by and our family lives pulled us back into each our lives, we bid adieu, with a promise to stay in touch and do this more often. I know we will, for every one of us had felt the pang of missing our friends. And now we know how great it could be, to stay in touch, to feel and connect with our younger selves. And I hope that I could keep this feeling that I fail to express even with writing, close to my heart, and treasure it for as long as possible.

Until later 🙂

Friends :)

True friendship is when you can just sit beside your friend, remain silent for a long time and take leave with the satisfaction of having had a long conversation. There will be so many friends for each of us. But, some succeed to leave their footprints in our sands of time, forever. I have had wonderful friends with me till this day. Out of my many good friends, there are 4 who are my best (Others, please don’t take anything offensive, since the list is too big to start even). They never deserted me in any situation,even when I was on the wrong side and they made me realize a lot of things. This post is an attempt to pay a tribute to them in my own way.

Guruprasad@Aditya- The one who is with me since we met during KG days, till now (Only that, in the later stages of our lives, we decided to turn the bond into a lifetime partnership. However, that doesn’t stop him from being my friend :P). The one who knows more about me, than I myself know.The one guy, who bore all my tortures, who always goes out of the way to mend things for me, who chooses the best things for me, even if it’s not exactly the best for him . The one, who taught me not to support anything just because I like it and not to criticize anything just because I don’t like it. The one who is ready to fight with anyone (I mean the word “Anyone”) just to prevent them from hurting me (There has often been times, when he fights with me to prevent myself from hurting me, by taking a wrong decision).This list about him will go on endlessly. One post or one paragraph will be a very feeble attempt to describe our friendship. In the future, I might (might not) even write a book on us. (He is now at Bangalore to explore his career path).

Venkatakrishnan- A mutual friend to me and Guru, always wishing the best for us. Whatever happens, this guy is one who will always remain the same and be by our side. The one who is always there to advise us when in confusion, tease us when we are stupid, smile when we are happy and to be sad when we are so. In short words, he is the “Legal adviser” for me and Guru. I always quote him as “Gem of a person” meaning a nice person and sometimes abbreviating “Ginger eating monkey”:P This idiot studied the same crap that I did, in UG, but managed to be more knowledgeable than me at the end of 4 years and hence has decided to pursue M.S in the same stream. He is gonna be off to USA in a few days 🙁

Rathi Kannan Munukur- The one who made my college life much more enjoyable than it actually would have been. We both are so different yet so similar (yeah, that’s the way we are). We are so close, however we never influence each other. An appropriate example for us would be the parallel railway tracks. She inculcated so many values in me, without me knowing it (For example, I was never the kind of a person to have a second thought about dropping  a waste paper or a water bottle on the road. I don’t know till now, when I changed. However, I can say that the reason is Rathi) Her friendship is one of the treasures I got in this life and now she is already off to do her M.S.  🙁

Ramya- The one who spent the shortest time with me among all friends, yet had a great impact. I have never called this idiot just by her name. It will always be either a dog or a buffalo or a pig or at the least Ramya suffixed with any the before mentioned words. We both are so alike in character that we started to try finding “Six differences” between us. We found a few, but all of those were with respect to food preferences and nothing else. This idiot will complete whatever sentence I start and then will complain that I never let her tell anything. She is the proud recipient of  maximum number of pinches, beatings etc from me. The one who is an expert in Aptitude solving and literature skills but never accepts that she is. After having accompanied me in my craziest dreams about having “twin-houses” in Bangalore and some similar stuff, she is now working so hard at Bangalore that she couldn’t even talk to me properly 🙁

Now, all of these idiots (though I won’t call Rathi an idiot ;)) are not with me now physically, I am thinking of them every single day and am missing them very badly (It’s not that I don’t miss other friends of mine who have made a difference in my life).Thanks to all my friends and special thanks to the readers for bearing with such a long post.

Until later 🙂