Have you ever wanted change so much that you feel like you cannot spend another second in your current stand and want to move on immediately? And on the other side of the coin, have you ever felt so much is changing that you wanna settle down soon and be comfortable? Yeah, if you have experience both of these situations, you would know what it takes. At these times, you would search a balance and drift along the thin line between wanting more and settling down. Why I am writing about this now is I have been in both these situations very recently and found out what kind of survival instinct it took for me to hold on.
So I thought I would pen down my musings on that in the hope that someone might find it useful. Human mind is very fickle and you know that. So look out for yourself, always. When you are getting really comfortable and having a nice lie down, enjoy it and at the same time tell yourself that this cannot last forever and do something different that gets you out of the stagnant mode. This gyan/ self-enlightening will help you avoid the desperate phase which comes after a while.
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The converse is also true. When you feel too much is changing, take a time-out and enjoy a simple thing patiently. That simple thing might even be the gorgeous view that you have when you stand on your balcony with a cup of hot coffee at 7 o clock on a misty morning. Forget about everything else and just enjoy that moment. Enjoy a lazy day or a late dinner with your friends. Drop everything else. Trust me, it works.
Find a source of happiness that is not based on other factors, i.e., do not set conditions for your happiness. Try to be happy irrespective of what happens or not around you. This is a very difficult thing to do. However hard I tried, I couldn’t keep it going for more than a few days. I am still trying to capture this unconditional happiness and bring it into my life. But I have seen stronger-willed people carry out this and achieve a balance in their life. So, I believe it is worth a try.
Last but not the least, accept that how hard you try to make your life a smooth-running-machine, it invariably gets stuck somewhere at times and makes you take the toll. You gotta accept that life likes to strikes you straight in the face sometimes or even often. This acceptance at least helps you face it when it comes rather than making an unexpected mess. It is just so true that Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans. There is no way to go about it except accept it.
As I draw to an end, I request you not to take this as an advising post/a philosophical post. It is not. It is just a few things strung together. The few things that came out of my recent discoveries, recent attempts to straighten my life, recent turns on my roller-coaster. I just penned them down in the hope that it will help someone when they come to this turn besides serving as a written reminder to me.
Until later 🙂