Even before I start writing, I know very well that a post would not do justice to you and your love. Yet, I wish to write about you here to fulfill that small part of expression which I can at this instant, on this special day on which you were born.
There is this famous saying – “God cannot be everywhere. So he created mothers.” It is not without reason that they say this for what you have done for me till this day can be equaled by no one. Your protective womb was not only for those 9 months when I was a fetus but for my entire lifetime. When I look back in my life, there is not one instance when you weren’t there for me – mentally, physically supporting me in all ways. When it came to taking care of the family, nothing is impossible for you.
You make all the delicacies in the world, but never once have you made them because you wanted to eat them. It is for the family, always. For all the festivities, when everyone around switched from home-made delicacies to readily available ones in shops due to lack of patience and strength, you are the only one who refuses to back off from the tedious routine of making all the sweets and snacks. For you, we are the priority over your troubles. The coconut water out of each coconut used in our kitchen,whether a mouthful or a glassful, has waited for me specially until I wake up after my lazy slumber. This happens till date. I remember asking you every time –“You can have it na? Why are you saving this for me?” Your answer is always-“You like it na? So I want you to have it”. Every dish that you make is heavenly because I know there is that extra ingredient of your love which makes it so.
I can never comprehend how you work non-stop starting at 5.30 AM till 11.00 PM. You must really have some super-power! I look at your strength and my jaw drops. Not once have you lied down saying that you are sick even when you had health issues. It was me, Anna or dad who found out you were not feeling well and forced you to rest. How could you not get fed up with the annoying fights between me and bro when we were young? If at all you were strict with us, it was for the sole reason to teach us the value of a sibling, to discipline us. I now realize how much you have struggled to ingrain every aspect of discipline in us and at the same time pamper us where possible. How you brought the 2 aspects of parenting together is something that amazes me still.
Where do you get that patience to listen to my incessant blabber about school stories, college stories, how I fought with my friends, how I made up with them, who said what etc? When I first rode a cycle, then a two-wheeler, when I learnt swimming, when I won prizes, when I started earning, for every single milestone I reached, the look on your face – It was as if your life’s purpose was fulfilled. The ways you try to learn to use the computer, the doubts you ask.. It’s funny for me sometimes, but I always know it is a big deal for you to grasp the fast changing world and technology. But you do, for us. The world may outgrow you, but we never will. Anna and I will always be kids to you. The world may grow so much in technology but there will never be a time when mankind can invent anything even closely equal to a mother’s love.
I don’t remember a single time when you have ever wanted anything for yourself. Any sari that I certify as nice will be saved in my wardrobe though I don’t prefer saris. Your explanation would be “You might be interested in wearing them in future. So I will save it for you.” I have pestered you with the question-“How can you give away everything without any wants for yourself?” And your answer remains-“You will understand when you become a mother.” Frankly I am scared how I will be as a mother. The responsibilities you shoulder, the sacrifices you make, the pains you bear, all these seem impossible to do. Yet you are here, doing everything I call impossible, showing solid proof for who a mother is.
Your immovable confidence in me and my decisions made me stronger and more responsible. You gave me the freedom to fly high though you were scared to do so. You wanted me to experience everything life has in store for me. You understood the freedom of voicing my opinions especially well since you have never had the chance to in the society you grew up. The way you supported me when I expressed the biggest decision of my life..Despite your fears, hesitations and protectiveness, all that mattered to you was my happiness. Throughout the struggle, you prayed with me, cried with me, smiled with me, fought for me and finally won it for me.
I know you don’t give importance to this day, the day you were born. But how can we not celebrate the birthday of the soul of our family? Happy Birthday Amma! You are the best mother one can ask for. I can keep writing and there are not enough words in any language to describe your selfless love. So I end it here with my personal note – “With just a single call of “Ma” all my needs have been fulfilled, all my sufferings soothed, all my wants pampered, all my dreams made true. I may fly higher and higher but never beyond your reach. I may change with the world but never so much that you don’t know me. For you, I will always be the kid that you know me to be.”
This is a moving tribute to a great mother. I wish her all the best today. Happy Birthday to your Amma.
This was extremely touching. I haven’t been that attached to my parents. Reading this makes me go back and correct it.
You have been a wonderful daughter 🙂
Wish your amma for me, will ya?
Thank you Soumya! We all have our quirks when it comes to relationships 😉 But our parents always know us, don’t they? 🙂
Sure will wish her on your behalf, thank you for the wish, the comment and dropping by. Hope you will come for more 🙂
hey,that was cool post.same as my mom.but i want to mention certain things.
most of kids feel great about their mother and her pampering.but after growing up,people don’t pamper their aged parents with same affection.
i have learnt what affection is from my mom. now she is old enough to sit and relax.now we pamper her with maid,cook ,a car with driver and best medical care.now she has more comfort compared to when we were kids.she spends all the day reading telugu newspaper,talking to relatives on phone.she asks me lots of questions after reading newspaper.i do answer every question with much patience and information.i did educate my mom in various aspects of life and there is nothing wrong coz we have learnt lot of things from mother when we were kids.my mom is from village so she doesn’t even remember or know her date of birth.i made her date of birth same as my birthday in her passport ,PAN and adhaar card.
i believe,we should care for a person when he/she is alive,we should not cry when our loved one is gone.
I totally agree with you on looking after our parents like a child. They have done so much for so many years unconditionally and indeed we should provide them with the best luxury. However, some people don’t like to rest. For example, my dad is a person who is hyper-active. You can give him a king’s life yet he will want some work to keep him occupied. 🙂 We need to learn a lot from our parents on this front.
And yeah, teaching parents about technology might require a little more patience than usual but we need to keep in mind that they did not grow up with it while we did. So, it is easy for us but very hard on them. Kids need to remember how much parents would have struggled to teach us all the things throughout our childhood.
fathers are different from mothers,i lost my dad when i was 13.so she is staying with us,otherwise my dad n mom can never leave their home town to stay in city with us.there is easy way to teach medical science,technology and philosophy to older people and that is to put it in their own terminology or a rational explanation to blindly following ancient methods.
Such a cute post. Moms r such angels!! and babe u knw wht? I wasnt able to check ur blog till nw. Wadn’t opening. I had been trying for months. Tried via crome today and it did! So now I have an explanation of why I was visiting u regularly.
Wow Red, this is such a surprise 🙂 Thank you, thank you! I am really wondering why it didn’t open in other browsers for you. It works fine for me. Anyway, now that you have a way to visit, do drop by more. It is such an honor. 🙂
haa..missed reading this..such a lovely birthday wish!
Wishing your amma a very belated happy birthday!
lovely post, Keirthana!
Thanks Uma 🙂